The answers mainly came along the lines of "Each relationship is different. It is what each person makes it to be." 🤦🏿
I guess I was asking those questions to the wrong people. Cause I have finally come across the answer that is truly what I was looking for over the years.
SPEND TIME TOGETHER
If only people had just said that I would have been more open to people. At least in the long term.
There are so many factors which made this so difficult for me to figure out. It all pieced together when I came across 3 different information.
1. When someone gets into a relationship they will lose on average 2 friends (I have experienced this several times)
2. If you want to make friends as an adult go somewhere regularly. The people who are normally there will become acquainted with you and if y'all vibe, y'all become friends.
3. If you want a relationship to prosper (romantic, friend, intimate), hang out alot and get to know each other.
Why did this not click in my head as a young girl reading Mills & Boons, Harlequins, and Temptations Books? Why didn't I see it when it came to all those romantic sitcoms and movies? I used to make fun of the storyline behind all of the books: Man and woman interact and hate each other. Man and woman are forced to have to do some kind of activity together. Man and woman realize that each is pretty cool and have great characteristics. Man and woman fall deeply in love.💓💓💓
If it was that simple, why didn't people just say that? I wouldn't be surprised if they thought that I was already spending time with people (romantic, friends, intimate). When in fact I just stay home and surf the internet.
There are a few people that I do hang out with periodically but I know that they have deeper connections with people they see on a regular basis. I can't get made at that.
So my goal is to get out there and foster some relationships and see where it goes from there.
OXXO
Mayeshah!!!
