What Role Do you hold in your life?

Lately, I have been hearing this statement. Being the Main Character in your life. With this comes all the Lifestyle Gurus sharing their opinions on how to develop yourself into being the Main character. Like life is a movie or something.

Alot of the tips do overlap and make sense. Not all the time you want to be putting other people first. Well I am not gonna be going over those tips and opinions. 

Instead, I am expressing how much of an Extra to my life. Sitting in the background, walking pass the camera lenses, cheering others on from the background. Not even a supporting role, where I am interacting with the main character.

This may be diet related, lack of physical activity, or just me coping with the world we living in.

What Role do you see yourself holding in your life?

It's not about you

Facebook be asking me what is on my mind. Now I gonna be asking you for your perspective.

I been on this blue marble (or disk if you are a flat earther) called Earth. I am looking at the word now and thinking ... Goddamn that is a weird word. EARTH.

Sorry I got a lil distracted😅. But yea I been here observing, learning, comprehending. I am seeing history repeating itself with different factors added in. I am seeing the understanding of mental health on the rise. I am also seeing the ability of the ... Masses to share their opinions over facts.

So I gonna share an observation and I would like YOUR PERSPECTIVE/OPINION/THOUGHTS. If you have kids great. If you passed the age of 30 fab. If you have dependants  lovely. If not I still wanna hear from you.

As a parent and an adult child (between the age of 20-50), you should understand that your kids/parents don't care about you and you are officially just there for them. Not the other way around.

From a psychological perspective a person becomes self aware with these different egos.  In Psychology class I was taught:
ID - Unconscious level of operations (I want to do this now)
EGO - Conscious & Preconscious level of operations (let's compromise)
SUPER EGO - Preconscious level of operations (This is not right to do).

Understand this as, while you are a baby and child you are all about your Id, it is all about how you feel at this moment and it needs to be dealt with NOW.

Then when you are going into puberty and teen years you are more in your Ego. You are more understanding that there are more things going on around you. So you are willing to compromise so you still get your way and the other person gets their way as well.

Then in your 20s and most definitely your 30s and up your Super-Ego develops. You realize that things aren't at all about you. You have to now look after people who are naturally in their Id/Ego. Or you are dealing with people who have reverted back into their Id/Ego. Therefore you do not really matter. Your life revolves around these other people.

Therefore, your purpose is the help these people to transform into their different levels (children into Superego and parents into non-existent) Unless you see it otherwise. I would like to know what you think.

Just Try: it may be a win or one of these lessons

In this early morning of the first day of September, I woke up thinking of the last 2 years in Hotels as a Supervisor. I learnt a lot which was great. Made some great friends and connections. Fucked up ALOT. Disappointed persons I looked up to.

My interactions with people were very hit or miss. Some I was able to discuss with the person to be more cordial with, others was like a complete war zone of passive aggressiveness.

When I started working there, soon after the supervisor resigned. The position was open and other person's in the resort told me to apply. I was not completely certain about it but figured alot of my career choices to that point was all about learning. So I along with a coworker and other ppl from different departments applied. Then I got it.

However, my main take away from that was: Just Try. I say that because in the game we call life, unless we try, we just wouldn't know. This may lead to regret setting in and that hurts more than actually making the mistakes. 

A few things I learnt along the way that will always stick with me while working as a supervisor:

1. Consistency - although learning the new tasks and skills needed for the job may be exciting keeping up that excitement is key. If you start by taking initiative to do things, keep up that momentum. All of these will be noticed when slacked off.

2. Confidentiality - both coworkers, guests, and suppliers require a level of confidentiality in the work place. Of course in a professional standpoint. Don't bring up people's past to others, don't share information which may be deemed as private, and don't share information to other people which is none of their business. This was breeched a few times but not in a way to affect the profession.

3. Integrity - be honest, at all times. Uphold your good morals, at all times. Don't ever betray the trust of your coworkers, superiors or guests. As with everything, it will come back and bite you on the ass. Trust in the workplace is just as vital (if not more vital) than trust in a romantic relationship. I fucked up here and not a day that my mind runs on my hotel career, this doesn't run through my mind.

4. Compassion - just because you can do it doesn't mean others can. Everyone has their issues (physically and mentally). Know them and work accordingly. Don't give someone work that is strenuous when they are physically unable to. Don't give people tasks that they are not completely versed on with out proper guidance. Know what they can and can't do and help where you can.

5. Dependability - this goes both ways. Not only being dependable to your coworkers but also being able to depend on them. If you have a problem don't be afraid to explain that you have a problem. You are human and mistakes will be made.mJust don't turn a mosquito bite into an abscess.

I know this information is all over the place, even in supervisory training manuals, but this is what I learnt which will always be with me.

I would have only learnt this by Just Trying.

It was fun, it was nerve wracking, and most definitely a learning experience. I regret making certain decisions but I had a certain mentality which let me to making those choices. I may not have had this kind of experience with a different superior. She is, if not the best, one of the best leaders I ever had. Although, my goal was to be like her, I should have found my own assertiveness and gone off of that. She was the sticking factor to my staying there so long. 

I was gonna share more in depth details but that would not only be unfair to people I worked with, but also myself cause I had made some big fuck ups. So I am happy I made that leap of faith.

OXXO

Mayeshah!!!

Relationships

So for the past, let's say 20 years, I have been asking what happens during a relationship? What makes a relationship work? What is a relationship?

The answers mainly came along the lines of "Each relationship is different. It is what each person makes it to be." 🤦🏿

I guess I was asking those questions to the wrong people. Cause I have finally come across the answer that is truly what I was looking for over the years.

SPEND TIME TOGETHER

If only people had just said that I would have been more open to people. At least in the long term.

There are so many factors which made this so difficult for me to figure out. It all pieced together when I came across 3 different information.

1. When someone gets into a relationship they will lose on average 2 friends (I have experienced this several times) 

2. If you want to make friends as an adult go somewhere regularly. The people who are normally there will become acquainted with you and if y'all vibe, y'all become friends.

3. If you want a relationship to prosper (romantic, friend, intimate), hang out alot and get to know each other.

Why did this not click in my head as a young girl reading Mills & Boons, Harlequins, and Temptations Books? Why didn't I see it when it came to all those romantic sitcoms and movies? I used to make fun of the storyline behind all of the books: Man and woman interact and hate each other. Man and woman are forced to have to do some kind of activity together. Man and woman realize that each is pretty cool and have great characteristics. Man and woman fall deeply in love.💓💓💓

If it was that simple, why didn't people just say that? I wouldn't be surprised if they thought that I was already spending time with people (romantic, friends, intimate). When in fact I just stay home and surf the internet. 

There are a few people that I do hang out with periodically but I know that they have deeper connections with people they see on a regular basis. I can't get made at that.

So my goal is to get out there and foster some relationships and see where it goes from there.

OXXO

Mayeshah!!!

Quikserve

Let's talk about Quikserve now ☺️

So Quikserve is a food delivery service. They have a wide variety of restaurants that you can order from. 

Quikserve has been around for several years and has been perfecting their system to ensure both great customer service and efficiency. 

With this company you have the option of paying cash or with your credit/debit card. Like Allmart it is island wide delivery. So you can be at the farthest point of the island and your food will get to you.

You also have the ability to order your food online which means you don't need to download the app. This helps save space on your device (especially if it isn't one of those high tech devices with tons of memory).

Although I work with both Allmart and Quikserve, each if them are awesome in their own way.

Like their Facebook, follow them on Instagram and also check out their website or download the app to make your orders.

Allmart

Look how I just dropping names such as AllMart and Quikserve. I bet you don't even know what they are. Let me give a lil explanation of each. 

This post will focus on Allmart as it is where I started.

Allmart Marketplace is an Online Marketplace for local businesses in Antigua. (The soundbite I have been repeating for the past year or so). It has a whole plethora of businesses in Antigua that people can choose from. Then one of the friendly and efficient delivery drivers (😏like me) will delivery it to the location of your choosing, or if you are in the area you can pick it up when you are ready.  It is all about saving time for you. There is also the ability to organize for one of the drivers from Allmart to pick up items from places not listed on the app. 

The app is categorized in this fashion:

Restaurants 

From several eateries around the island you can order from. Sushi, Thai, Chinese, Lebonese, Mexican, Indian, Pizza, Crepes, are just to start. With more to come on board in the near future.

Grocery stores

If you are immobile, busy, not a fan of crowds (especially in this Covid Era), or just downright lazy, you can order your groceries from one of several supermarkets and minimarts through the app. The supermarket will pick out your order and pack it. If there are items out of stock, the supermarket would contact you and enquire if you want to substitute or just leave it out all together.

Bakeries and Desserts

Whether you want to have pastries, breads, or lunch in the form of bun and cheese, these can be ordered through the app. Celebrating a birthday, Anniversary, or any other event where you would want a cake. Locally made fudge and other confectioners can also be ordered through the app and delivered to you or a loved one. 

Locally Made

Products that are made locally on island. Health care, Seasonings, Jewelry, Bags, Skin Care, just to name a few.

From the Farm

For the freshest of the fresh, get it straight from the source. Eggs, meat, veggies and fruits.

Wine and Spirits

Party time also includes a few libations. So why not have them delivered to you while you are getting prepared for the events.

Flowers and Gifts

Anniversary, Birthday, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's Day, Christmas. So many gift options and floral arrangements that can be ordered for friends, family or even to treat yourself.

Home and Decor

For a lil umph to your living spaces, artwork, accessories, baskets are available.

Health and Care

Body building suppliments, sun screens, skin and face care, hair care.

Clothing and Accessories

Yes, there are a few clothing stores on there. Especially great for order and pickup.

Beauty and Fragrance

Scents galore. Great for personal use and gift giving.

Electronics

Printers, computers, phones, audio systems, power banks just to name a few.

Books and Toys

Book stores are here, toy stores are here.

School and Office Supplies

For back to school (I know let's not think toouch about that in the middle of summer) and office supplies.

Hardware and Auto Supplies

Did I stutter... (Can I stutter while typing?🤔🤔). Some of the basics can be ordered and be picked out at the store for easy collection.

Construction

You thought hardware and automotive supplies were crazy to have on this app. Just start building your home from here 

Check them out on Instagram, Like their Facebook, but most importantly download the app to start ordering today.

OXXO

Mayeshah!!!

I'm a Driver

What are you doing now?

The question that I have asked and many have asked me in 2021.

When I was working in the hotels, I felt so much pride. Not just because of the position I held, whether it was HR Assistant/Administrator, Executive Assistant, Guest Services, Hostess in the restaurant, Housekeeping Supervisor, or anything I have done. I was proud because I was doing something I was passionate about, working in hospitality.

Yes. I know hospitality isn't solely hotels. But to me working in the hotels to me had prestige. Kinda like people working in Banks, or Doctors offices, or even Lawyers offices. From the minute I stepped into it fully in 2011, I was in love.

Then came .... Dun dun dun....COVID. Threw me out on my backside and had me second guessing if I really wanted to get back in.  

So the answer to the question is:

I am a delivery driver (for Allmart and Quikserve). 

I have been doing this since August 2020 and have enjoyed it. There is the ups and downs. There are the difficulties and so on but what work place doesn't. 

I have met some great people doing this, both local and international. 

I have been able to pay off a bunch of debt while doing it and even got a new car out of it. Well a new used car, don't think that we making that much money but I wouldn't have considered it until this job.  

I have been to places that I never been to until doing this jobs. Oh yeah. ANTIGUA IS FREAKING GORGEOUS.

Also made some great contacts with different vendors and customers, which would never would have happened if I was working in the hotels.

People's fears of what can happen do make me a bit more cautious. So not carrying too much money on me at one time, all in one place. Cautious driving practices and just being aware of my surroundings 

We will see how things work out in the future and enjoy the ride until then. 

OXXO

Mayeshah!!!

Do You Even Blog, Bro

So the question I have right now, on the 20th day of July, 2021, is:

Are people still blogging like before? 

I know I have been very sporadic with my posts but that is because I don't have a computer. Well that is what I tell myself.

But I was going through my reader and noticed most, if not all of my subscriptions no longer post. One of the person's I was following she is on my Instagram, so I reached out to her. I asked her if she still blogged because I noticed her last post was in 2018. Yes. 2018.

She replied:

Hi 😊thanks for reaching out - and thanks for following my blog. Yeah, I stopped blogging a few years ago when my business took over. I’d love to get back into it again but things are pretty busy with the shop, and business is going really well, thankfully! We’ve been good ☺️

I do plan to get back to my blogging roots one day though, we’ll see. And if you haven’t checked out my shop yet, I’d love for you to visit. Be well!

Oohhh. Please do check out her shop on IG:

The Tiny Closet.

I guess that is how it is for most of the other people, where life just took over and blogging fell on the back burner.

I started blogging to get certain thoughts off my chest. Not all the time conversations can be had. So I just blog about it.  

Although I don't have my computer yet. It is a goal to be accomplished soon. I will continue to post through my phone until then. 

I know I know I have said that before.lol. 😅😅😅

But I need the outlet again. So many things coming in and no way to get it out. 

Welcome to the Life in the Mind of Mayeshah.

Welcome back if you haven't left me.

OXXO

Mayeshah!!!